Are guilty pleasures still a thing in our modern lifestyle?
What is a guilty pleasure?
And are guilty pleasures still a thing in our modern lifestyle?
I looked up the meaning of guilty pleasure – and it’s an activity or piece of media that someone enjoys but would be embarrassed by if other people found out about it.
These might be books, movies, TV shows, foods, etc.
Generally guilty pleasures are things that might be viewed as shameful by some people, like trashy novels or overdone rom coms.
Why do we care if people approve or disapprove of our guilty pleasures?
We do care -because we want to be liked. We want to be included and made to feel we belong. Receiving disapproval from someone makes us feel unloved, unwanted or cast away.
My guilty pleasure is doing nothing. I run two businesses -and that means many long hours.
I am working on my business every week day from 6am in the morning often to early in the evening.
So, when I sit down and do nothing – it can often feel strange. And I often feel guilty about doing it.
I often catch myself thinking I should be doing something – creating content, editing videos etc.
I am not necessarily embarrassed about doing nothing – but I do feel a twinge of guilt when people ask me if I’m busy and I say no.
Why do we feel make people feel guilty?
Why does the world deem busyness as an acceptable way to fill your day?
And why do I feel guilty when I choose NOT to fill my day with busyness?
On what basis do we measure success ?
What do we look for, that tells us someone is successful? A full diary? A healthy bank balance? Lots of followers on social media platforms?
What if none of these are true of someone who is richly blessed with wisdom and can give such wise counsel.
What is someone is always available for you to sit down and talk your heart out -at the drop of a hat. Are they seen to be successful?
On what basis do we measure success? Are we only looking at the external things about the person or are we taking time to get to know the inner person?
About my guilty pleasure:
Should I still be feeling embarrassed by it, if someone found out that from time to time, I just like to sit and do nothing?
Should I care what they think?
In this modern age, where it seem that everything goes –
– are guilty pleasures still a thing in our modern lifestyle?
I teach card classes for this very reason – so that it creates a space for people to take some time out for themselves.
If you’re craving some “me” time – feel free to browse my calendar of events and take some time out! I am running a retreat here in Tauranga 27 -29 May if you’re interested in joining us.
If anything has resonated with you in this kitchen sink chat – I would love you to drop me a comment.
Until next time –
xxx
